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Originally Posted by CantExplain
By the way, therapeutic neutrality is a myth..
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Of course it's a myth. No human can ever be completely neutral.
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T told me once, "I approve of your sexuality." I'm very grateful for that affirmation, but it's dead against the rules. Isn't it?
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Maybe, maybe not.
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I sometims think the only time Ts do any real good is when they break their own rules.
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Well, there can be value in breaking out of the therapeutic frame. My therapist has certainly done it, with mixed results to be honest.
One such break just about caused me to completely quit therapy with him altogether.
Therapy is such an organic thing, it's clear that one size does not fit all. It also appears to me that you are using this thread to consolidate and hone your argument that your therapist is wrong.
Who knows? She may, in fact, be dead wrong, but have you considered respecting her wishes, wrong as they may be?
Perhaps dealing with the fact that you want something that you are not going to get, rather than locking yourself into this anger and struggle?
As always, I'm reminded of a quote - actually this time a story of sorts:
"One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all.
“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”