My current T tells me a lot about her life, and yes, sometimes she brings her stuff into the room. Like once I felt she was distant, and I assumed she was pushing me away. When asked, she appologized and she had some family stuff going on and she was probably a little preoccuppied with it. But she assured me that she wasn't pushing me away.

This was tremendously helpful, and helped with the trust building. It's also something that I'm able to remember in my 'real life'. That if I perceive people as being different, it may be for a reason other than to do with me. So I need to stop projecting and start communicating.