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Originally Posted by wintergirl
I've been trying to space my appointments out more to try and deal with my stress on my own, but it's been difficult. And although my T is wonderful in many ways, I sense that he is uncomfortable discussing my feelings (which is understandable - he's human!) - but his discomfort makes it tougher for me to discuss the issue.
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Yeah, it can't possibly be helping that he doesn't seem comfortable talking about it. If you can, you may want to just come out and say, "You don't seem to be comfortable talking about this." A couple times I have thought the same of my T (about other topics), and it turned out he thought that the material was too overwhelming for me and that I had wanted to not go too deep into it, so he didn't... just a misunderstanding. But of all things your T should be comfortable talking about, this one is right out of the textbook. He's not helping you by leaving you alone with it!
Although yes -- it's great to have PC around to make as all feel a little less alone with this sort of thing.
ETA: Also, I realized before I forgot to mention something... looking at the whole husband-vs-T thing from a different perspective: by allowing your husband to not meet your needs because you feel they're being met by T, you're letting him off the hook and selling yourself short. You deserve a partner who is making every effort toward a strong, secure relationship.