That's correct, she didn't provide me with what I needed...because I didn't provide her with what she needed. Which I agree - is absolutely NOT the way it's supposed to work - and that was my point. But it wasn't something my Mom did consciously. To this day, I still don't know why such a seemingly happy person drank so much. I'm beginning to think she had her own issues. This past year I found out she went to AA when I was a kid. Anyway, this is just one thing. I can see her life was pretty tough around the time I was born. The last thing she needed was another kid.