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Old Mar 08, 2004, 11:46 AM
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Sky, I'm choosing to respond to your PM publicly. I'm sure you and others will see it as yet another attack. I'm sorry for that. I want to post this publicly because I know there are other people here that could benefit from my response. It's not kind. It's not gentle. Although some disagree with me, that's okay. They have their opinions, I have mine.

Now, in response to your extensive PM:
You know, your perception of things is SO skewed! What you really need to do is begin, after all these years, to work on your anger over what happened to you. You are so full of resentments, self-pity and bitterness! You automatically respond in defense with whatever is said to you! That is why you can't find anyone in 3D to help you! You push people away with your attitude!

You think I'm attacking you when I'm NOT. We clash because you sense the same strength in me that you have but refuse to acknowledge. Possibly, you see someone that has pulled themselves out of a hell-hole and the possibility of you doing it is scaring the hell out of you! Once you come to terms with what happened to you, you can use the energy you use being angry for your own good. It can fuel your climb out of that hell-hole you are in. And how do I know? Because I've been where you are! I used to respond to everyone and every situation with defensiveness and anger. Bitterness used to spew out of my mouth with everything I said. And if that didn't get accomplished what I thought I needed, I whined and moaned about my situation trying to find some pity somewhere. No one wanted to be around me!

I am not attacking you.

I am not lying about a relationship we don't have. We have communicated through PM and may I remind you, you PMed me first!

Your life doesn't irritate me, it's your whining and anger that pisses me off... and you wanting to correct what I say. You can't accept that my truth is MY truth.

I hardly answered "every" post you made. On the contrary, I tried to stay away from you.

If I have called you names, it was "childish" because children respond to things they don't like is anger, because they don't have the mental capacity to deal with unpleasantness in any other way.

And give me a break! I'm attacking you because you are "Christian???" Who am I to judge whether you are or not?! I did warn you about posting religious matter because there had been some dissension on the matter. It was nothing more or nothing less than a "head's up," just like I said. Not an attack.

I can't believe that you think I follow you around and "rebuke" everything you say while all the time I'm trying to stay away from you! If I had "just" stated what I felt, you still would have seen it as an attack on you because that's what you expect.

Yes, you have been a victim of circumstances. Yes, you took a very tough break. But the "incident" is OVER. You've had plenty of time to rage at fate, to mourn your deep losses. Yes, you've had a life-long struggle to overcome the devastation. You have every right to be angry at what happened. What you need to do is use the energy your anger produces and use is constructively, not negatively. All the people around you aren't the ones that caused your situation but yet you spew that anger at anyone that comes close to you. You deal with people that could possibly help you as if they were the ones that took your life away from you.

The way you are dealing with your problems isn't working, Sky. It's time to change the way you perceive things. Be open to suggestions, listen to them, think about them and then weigh them in your heart of hearts. You'll be surprised what you find.

<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>
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