I sat down with my wife at the kitchen table and went throuhg my notes. She made the following contributions:

1. Are you upset because you don't know your T or because you are not allowed to know? I am sad that I don't know and angry that she won't tell me.

2. Do you value what T tells you over what you can observe directly? Yes.

3. Any idea why that might be? I distrust implicit knowledge. I can only guess what she is feeling and it would be more reliable if she would tell me. I am also uncomfortable with ideas that haven't been put into words.

4. If you observed something and asked for confirmation, would you get it. Probably.

5. Maybe you should write down what you do know. It might be more than you think. Good idea!