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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I now believe that you need to do your closure as you go along.
I don't believe you can get good closure after a bad relationship, or if you are feeling disconnected, or under time pressure.
I've beaten myself up over my poor performance when my mother was dying. But I now see that with the best will in the world, three days simply wouldn't have been enough. It is the wasted years, not the wasted week that weigh on me now.
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Thanks Cantexplain - I am so sorry you have regrets relating to your mothers death.
Wow that is such a profound thing you have written about it being wasted years and not the wasted week. My brain is still working to really understand that and how to do it, but somewhere in me I know there is something really important in what you have written.
Again I wonder if it is that thing about being in the moment, so maybe being "in" every moment that I spend with T....hmm shall think more on that today, but thank-you for stirring something in me.
Take care - Soup
