What are these choice things she said? Not too blunt, eh? I have been choosing a therapy "theme" for myself at the beginning of every year with my current T, and I think I am going to go for blunt this year. He hates blunt, as far as I can tell. He is one big pussyfooter. Anyway, you mentioned them, you KNOW we love and care about you and want to help you in any way we can, so if it helps you to share what she said, we are here to listen and talk things thru with you.

Also, did you see what I wrote to stopdog, regarding "narcissistic injury"? I was discussing it with T yesterday, and we were like, why didn't we think of this before? Have you done any reading on this topic? you might find it helpful.

I used to correct T's pronounciation - he was always gracious about it. Anyway a few days ago he said I "gave him so much" - so yesterday I asked him to elaborate. It was interesting - at one point I felt there was a bit of narcissistic injury as he said, "because of you, I brought more of myself into being a T, although of course people continue to grow all the time" - like he was ashamed to admit he wasn't at that advanced point of development before, or somehow owes ME something, that's a narcissistic injury. Then he goes on to say that he always liked how I corrected his grammar etc, which I haven't done lately. Truth is, I haven't HEARD him say anything wrong - which we've discussed on this forum - because i'm not so desperate anymore that *I* have to control everything and make sure HE is qualified to take care of me, as my parents never were. I trust him now.

Anyway, sorry for the Queen's speech! hope SOMETHING resonates with you or (someone else, for you) out of it.