Very tough situation. It sounds like your realizing that a change is needed for you. GOOD for you!
Now, be prepared mentally. It is rather hard work getting sober alone, and you are goiong to have to make some tough decisions about your home situation as well.
My suggestions:
1) Be honest & talk to your husband. However, you may need to write down what you want to discuss with him first. Think about what you truly want out of the relationship. Share this with him. How can he support you in your efforts? Explain how you see him supporting you. However, if he responds unsupportively (as you mentioned him trying to talk you into a drink), be ready to set boundaries with him. Think about what you will/can do if he won't support you and let him know these boundaries! Most of all, set boundaries that are achievable for you and FOLLOW through with them.
2) RapidFlyer has some very wonderful suggestions. AA or NA meetings are a great place to go to talk and get advice. Plus, you may be surprised out how many people there have similar stories, and it is always great to know that you are not alone.
As for the other suggestions RapidFlyer made (shelters, state/federal assistance, outpatient facilities, subsidized apts, etc) these are possible solutions for you especially when setting up those boundaries with your husband. I would also suggest you look into them. There should be a local crisis line that you could find on the web to call or a local community resource center that you could call to find out what help there is in your area and who to go to for it. (in my area we have a 211 number that provides resources too incase you have that in your area too)
3) I would also recommend attending an Alanon meeting as well since your husband has a problem drinking & with drugs. There you will find more support about how to interact with him as well.
These meetings (AA or NA and Alanon) are so helpful, and I would recommend getting their as soon as possible. You can look up times and locations online.
Wishing you the best. Keep in touch here too.
