Thanks Cantexplain - I am so sorry you have regrets relating to your mothers death.

Wow that is such a profound thing you have written about it being wasted years and not the wasted week. My brain is still working to really understand that and how to do it, but somewhere in me I know there is something really important in what you have written.

Again I wonder if it is that thing about being in the moment, so maybe being "in" every moment that I spend with T....hmm shall think more on that today, but thank-you for stirring something in me.

Take care - Soup