Hi Tom,

Im sorry your feeling so confused - this must be a difficult time for you. I think your theory on the issue could well be correct but if you find yourself overthinking the matter or its affecting you from forming more sustainable relationships then i would perhaps seek therapy and see if that helps you resolve this issue.

I recently came out as bi - i was in a relationship with a guy and due to my desires to have sex with women the whole thing ended pretty badly but im glad i now know where i stand and what i want. Is it possible that the sex you had with guys just wasn't that great and could possibly be more enjoyable providing you do it with someone more whose more experienced/simply better at it?

I hope ive been of some help and remember sometimes its ok not to know for definate what your sexuality is but if its really bothering you just take your time to explore the matter a bit further and just be patient with yourself - your only human after all. Feel free to PM me if you need to chat. Good luck.