Sometimes I read your posts and think to myself, "I could've written this post!"

I have no real helpful advice for you, and I've considered the husband ultimatum as well. I just don't know anyone who got divorced and didn't have any family support at all, and I'm scared. Sometimes I go to T and wish he'd say, "Well, don't worry about all of that. We get along well enough, and your kids seem nice. Let's just get married, and I'll protect you."

Because that's not crazy AT ALL.

Anyway, I'm sorry to add my weird issues to your thread, but you and I are very much in similar places in our lives, and I'm really glad you're here on PC.