i wish i could reach through and be with you as you are going through all this.so much stuff and i have no idea what to say to help make things better.but i do read your posts and completely understand how you are feeling. i doubt many T will say they love you and that can be so hard when you feel so strongly that you need to hear that to be reassured that things are ok.but i bet they are ok with him .and i would definately talk more about this with him.i'm so sorry to hear about your farther in law.i hope he is being kept comfortable.just breathe and try to take it one step at a time you have a lot on your plate