I truly love my therapist and have for our 10 years of work together. We talk about it very openly, even the "what if's". We both know it can't go anywhere so it makes it safe to really explore my feelings and his countertransference, which is powerful. Have you watched the first season of "In Treatment" ? I highly recommend it for you right now as it explores this very issue. At the end of the series you will understand why therapists should never reciprocate. It might help you to re-define your feelings, which are very normal and common.