Yes I also 'swing' between being overwhelmed by every tiny thing and minimising everything. The thing is the fragility happens when I'm alone, usually (it's not 'allowed' to be seen by others), and the minimising happens all the time. Sometimes I 'slip up' in therapy and T sees a hint of fragility with the minimising at the same time - "yes T, I realise that I'm sobbing my eyes out, but it really is *NO*BIG*DEAL*, just ignore the silly crying lady and go about your business lalala". Usually though he just thinks I get on with everything - "I'm surprised that you said _ was overwhelming; you always seem so together!" Well duh T, that's my pattern!

PS: also loving the "hence" and "forthwith" additions to the thread

*Willow*