i can relate to this in a way. my t is very, very accomplished (she graduated first in her class in her doctoral program, and graduated with high honors in her graduate program and undergraduate program), and is involved in so many things at this moment in her life (private practice, teaching at a college, getting journal articles published, church commitments, raising young kids)... and she seems to be so successful and happy in all areas. it does make me wonder if she can relate to me. it also intimidates me a bit, thinking that - like you said - we're not on the same level. but, most of all, it makes me worry that she doesn't care about me as much as she claims to, because there is no way she can have a strong emotional attachment to so many areas in her life, right? i'm just a tiny, tiny part. and i also worry she'll quit her private practice and focus on everything else instead. i have weird and exhausting thought processes sometimes, not gonna lie, lol.

Hmm, I have NEVER thought of any of my T's as being superior to me, or more accomplished. Who do they answer to??? Pretty much no one! As the saying goes, doctors bury their mistakes. I had to answer to a computer every day of my working life, constantly checking me, checking me, checking me. And insane bosses. T's have crazy people coming in to talk to them - it's unpleasant, but really, how hard is it??? Boy, SOMEBODY is grumpy tonite! me, me, me! So - advantage of BPD or narcissistic PD or being manic - always thinking you're better than everybody else! Well, plus, T says he works out, 2 hours, 4 times a week - so I understand he WORKS for his hard body, and I have seen him change. so... a lesson for me there. I USED to work for stuff, but my parents wouldn't let me have my results. so I gave up. i'm (re)learning what it's like to keep what you earn. is that an issue for you, do you think?