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Originally Posted by learning1
My t told me a few more activities where he's accomplished things recently. Former jobs where he was successful, athletic accomplishments, etc. I feel like a jerk for thinking this, but it is making me think it's even less likely he would never be able to really see me as an equal person. Logically I know he must be able to do that with a lot of people or he wouldn't be a good t. But I don't know how. I also think it's going to be harder to feel comfortable trusting him to understand my point of view. Has anyone else had this difficulty with their t?
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Yes, a definite problem for me. I need him to be on equal footing. Below - no good, above - no good. When I feel he's below me, i give him a chance to show what he's accomplished. When I feel he's above, I try to get him to tell me things he feels disappointed in, failures. Yikes the first time i tried this - he said "not being able to find a way to work together in an alliance with you". NOT quite what i was working for, but at least it showed he was concerned and working on making it happen. Sometimes when he's way above in a perfect way, and seems to accept me up there too, then we really click.