Yes, a definite problem for me. I need him to be on equal footing. Below - no good, above - no good. When I feel he's below me, i give him a chance to show what he's accomplished. When I feel he's above, I try to get him to tell me things he feels disappointed in, failures. Yikes the first time i tried this - he said "not being able to find a way to work together in an alliance with you". NOT quite what i was working for, but at least it showed he was concerned and working on making it happen. Sometimes when he's way above in a perfect way, and seems to accept me up there too, then we really click.