Thanks shipping for all your help. My "people pleasing" I think is a symptom of my anxiety and if i'm not able to make everyone happy then I get very distressed, causing me to bring others down which can then make me worse as i'm not making them happy. It's a catch 22 I suppose. Also the thought of being unliked or not wanted around can be very worrying. I think you are right that giving each other space so he can calm down and I can grow in confidence knowing he wouldn't mean to upset me. I think confidence and patience is the key. Thankyou so much for all your help [=