Hi Brimmer, Where is all the resentment coming from? Do you need to verbalize that to your co-workers? How do you know what your friends are thinking about you ? have they told you? They may not think that at all. I don't think you need to be aggressive just assertive. I have a rough time around people I don't know, they make me nervous as if I am not good enough. Do you have a therapist or Dr. or medication? Keep posting it does help. I wish you well.