Yes, I am "out of wack", but I need a certain degree of ego and a bit of immaturity helps me to be carefree. For me, it's all about getting right sized. I try my best and relax, and my HP uses my stubborn defects for the benefit of others. Sometimes I've noticed people grow new ones in sobriety. For awhile, I thought I was washed white as snow & became "Holier Than Thou" aka Big Book Thumper. It could be my defects just don new disguises.