My T is very accomplished and fulfilled, many hobbies and he's one who sets a goal and then goes out and does it. However, I guess I know him enough on the personal side that I know where he has struggled and dealt with many issues. So, I'm not intimidated by his accomplishments. I just tell myself he would drive me completely crazy if I was married to him (might be why he's divorced). And I remind myself that he's had his own struggles in life so on some level he "gets" struggle.