Wow, that sounds like a pretty major collusion between your T and the former T. And then he's saying you need to be less hurt by things like this? And then he tells you to trust him again?

Um, no. I know that when bad things happen which shake our very core, it can be difficult to trust our instincts. I know we hear from our Ts that we learnt our 'coping strategies' in our pasts, and that they were adaptive back then but are unhelpful now. But it sounds like both your hurt and your reluctance to trust him again are perfectly adaptive human responses. I don't see you as being the one who has to change here.

Thinking of you, ((lost in termination))