As a contributor to a fund last year, I'm feeling offended that the non-donators are coming off as angry towards us, saying we think we're better than others. Some of them I thought were my friends.

I was able to donate at the time, and I did. How does that make me "better" than someone?

And as DocJohn has come in and pointed out, membership to this forum is a work in progress. There are going to be more ways to be able to gain access to it.