I feel the same as Tree- that it's mainly down to T rather than me. I could write you a very long list of people who couldn't handle me and left me prior to T. And I'm always mindful that although T has lasted a lot longer than any of the others, there are no guarantees about what will happen.

T was telling me a bit about her husband's therapy style earlier today. My T freely loves me and tells me often and does lots of loving things. For her husband, she said, love is a boundary and he doesn't love his clients. If I were his client, *I* would be the same person, but what I got back would be very different. So, it's not you, it's them