I got better by first identifying the problems that I wanted to work on. Once identified, being aware, aware, aware of everything about it. When the issue would come up, who was involved, how did I feel, etc. Talk about it with T so that it can be explored, explored, explored. T's give good feedback on problems. Getting all of your buried feelings about it out. Once I did all of this the solving was almost done. Making these subconscious issues conscious just about solves the problem.