helpful - letting me say "I feel fat" without invalidating this/me
- asking me questions about the illness as if I am an adult or if I need to be called on something, do it in question fashion, not attack mode

not helpful - backing me into a corner
- letting me get away with thinking I can handle a buffet. (I can get so I actually believe I would be ok with this.)

It's funny, my best friend deals with anorexia & if she does the 1st one, says "you are not", things like that, it's ok, but if someone "normal" does this, who at the very least knows I struggle with body image, it upsets me.

Thanks for this! I am sorry we deal with this, but it's good not to be alone....