My T is warm and fuzzy-ish for me now. For the first six months, she was friendly, but distant and clinical. That didn't work with me; then she saw an opportunity to open herself up to me and it worked. I opened up to warm and fuzzy.

I talked to her about the change later. She was cold and clinical because I was distant and aloof. When she told me she had cancer, I softened a bit toward her (one day I had an appointment, she looked like she'd been run over by a truck). I asked what was wrong with her and she decided to take a risk, open up to me about her own problems, and it worked. We saw each other as human rather than clinician and lab rat.

So, your therapist may treat you a certain way based on how you act. If you are not getting the kind of treatment you want, ask for it. If you don't get it, consider someone else!