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Old Feb 02, 2012, 07:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Chopin99 View Post
My T is warm and fuzzy-ish for me now. For the first six months, she was friendly, but distant and clinical. That didn't work with me; then she saw an opportunity to open herself up to me and it worked. I opened up to warm and fuzzy.

I talked to her about the change later. She was cold and clinical because I was distant and aloof. When she told me she had cancer, I softened a bit toward her (one day I had an appointment, she looked like she'd been run over by a truck). I asked what was wrong with her and she decided to take a risk, open up to me about her own problems, and it worked. We saw each other as human rather than clinician and lab rat.

So, your therapist may treat you a certain way based on how you act. If you are not getting the kind of treatment you want, ask for it. If you don't get it, consider someone else!
Well, sometimes it really doesn't work. I have opened up to this t and asked questions and actually been explicit and SAID, I DON'T FEEL LIKE I DO WELL IN A vaccuum (sorry I've probably mis-spelled that). I need, at least at the beginning of sessions, to be able to have some back and forth, even if it feels like small talk at time.

No response.

Yes, I do need to move on. Which freaks me out...because I have been searching for the right match in a therapist for nearly a year and a half. Four years ago, I had a great therapist but she retired from practice, and sometimes, I long for someone half that good.

Which I suppose is why I wrote my post to begin with. She WAS NOT PERFECT because she was a human, but she was willing to be human, and that was part of her very-human magic!

And, you know what? I could really really use some support.
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