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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
I see this as the same as lying. Lies of omission are still lies. But maybe that's me and my issues.  Your T is just acting like an ***** in trying to turn this around on you. I see his reasoning, but he KNEW that honesty and trusting were issues for you. He KNEW that previous incident was painful for you. All he had to do was say, "hey, here's the actual situation and it really sucks. Your anger and pain are totally understandable. Let's talk about what a jerk MT is and how you didn't deserve to be treated this way."
Ultimately you have to decide what is best for you. I know myself well enough that I could not deal with this situation and I would walk away. That's why I kept waiting to reply. Not quite sure why I'm so mad on your behalf. OHH, is this what you guys are talking about when you say you're triggered?? 'Cause I am totally totally irate and this didn't even happen to me! |
Yes, it does still feel like a lie. I just wanted to make the distinction that he didn't blatantly lie to me like my MT did. Absolutely, he knows honesty and trust are HUGE, HUGE issues for me.
Last fall, I sent T an email. In it I wrote, one thing I cherished about our therapy relationship was it was built on the foundation of truth and mutual respect. ( We had just survived a rupture where T admitted his part and I learned I could trust myself again) I said, not many of my relationships in RL, were built like that and it was...nice. In early January, it felt my relationship with T was built on sand and I lost my footing.
Thanks for being angry for me MKAC. I have been angry. I told T yesterday I was angry
. Now, I feel confused.