The thing is, seeing something from someone else's perspective doesn't mean seeing them as RIGHT. Sometimes I'll talk about something my mom did that made me feel awful, and he'll say, "Do you have any idea where she might have been coming from?" And I know that he asks that not because he thinks she was right or could have been right, but to highlight to me that what she did was not my fault and not deserved, and was rather a result of her failing to deal with her own issues.