OK, I've got the story now.

I can hear that you are uncomfortable about feeling vulnerable. If you could trust T, you might find that being vulnerable with someone you trust is OK. That's the way therapy is supposed to work.

T has certainly behaved in an ambiguous fashion. He has not been "manly and straightforward" (as they used to say in England before the war).

Did he lie? And can you ever trust him again? These are questions you'll have to decide for yourself.

If my T kept something back that I thought she should have told me, I would be very upset. But I think I would stick with her all the same. The relationship is worth more to me than the issue, in this case.

I'm sorry you've had so many troubles.