Wow. Good for you. Your letter is one that many professionals should read to see that they can hurt clients in many different ways depending on the vulnerabilities of the client. I have been hurt too, but you are so articulate in your letter and write so well. If I tried it I am sure i would screw it up some way.

I am so glad you have found someone who you feel taken care of ( not like child but as a patient). I have also found someone too. I miss the hugs of my last one who I was with for 20 yrs,( my new one has a no touch rule) but he is so able to hug me with his words. I don't need the physical contact to know he accepts me.

Congratulations. I hope this has brought you some closure and you will now be able to heal from both your difficult childhood and your ex-t.