I actually said "I talk to you in my head and I want it to stop. I mean I'm sure you're a lovely person but honestly... " and T said that he'd been doing this a long time and no one had ever said that to him before. I later wondered if he meant the talking in the head or the lovely person part. It sounds like the head-talking isn't uncommon. But he's been doing this 25 years, I really hope someone has told him he's lovely before. Maybe it was that particular choice of word.