Seriously, Struggling...I saw something you wrote and thought it was me because I saw the picture and then thought, "This doesn't sound like me at all; when did I write this?"

Thank you for changing your avatar. I understand completely why you liked the other one!

To answer your question about your H; our relationship has evolved through three rounds of therapy. Sometimes, he does indeed have to wait for me and we have talked about that and he is okay with this. Most of the time, it changes along the way.

I have had a hard time attaching to Ts. I never attached to the other two; my current T struck the right cord, but I'm still having trouble with it. I have BIG TIME issues trusting people.