yup. it's awkward.. people mean well, but they don't know what to say...but they want to say something...

especially if you are young & didn't send pout a specific message..well chances are you are going to get a pretty general not so good but i'm trying response...

i get those sometimes..& i'm 53...so yeah it gets better but...

sexual abuse is hard for people...to grasp. mental illness is too. my friends have a hard time with my ptsd, & my sexual abuse stuff & all..i am patient with them because i know they try...they do...& if their response isn't perfect or what i totally need at the time...i can either tell that that & see if they will try to respond clearer & closer to my needs...or just be happy that as my friends they are sticking with me & not running for the hills.

sometimes i must frustrate them with my responses...so i figure it balances out..i have to miss the boat at times & i am sure when i do i flop pretty good.

so like you said..you didn't give your friend much to go on because you didn't want to make the conversation awkward...she might not have been paying close enough attention at that moment...you both kind of missed each other on that one.

next time like i mentioned...you be specific about your needs if you want something & define what you are talking about...& then she will know it is important to you.

sorry this happened...i hate it when it does..makes me mad...

signed
been there, done that..couldn't by the t shirt cuz the ship done left without me & i couldn't get to the gift shop