I've been focusing on reminding myself to really stop and listen before responding. The more I've focused on this the more I'm able to see the bigger picture vs being set off by one thing.

Ive also begun to notice that it is my loss of contro as well. Once I'm able to identify it, I can better verbalized what I'm feeling.

I try not to focus on the tangible 'this has made me angry' but rather the it makes me angry because I've 'put in my effort here and now it's messed up' or a 'I'm angry because if you raise your voice to me, I will literally go into fight mode for real!'

I hope the point I feel I'm making came across.

(hug)