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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
Wow - I had no idea this is how it is for so many of us - why does it happen - is that how it is for kids who have parents that they respect - that they carry their parents around in their head until they are ready to flee the nest?
I just don't understand it, beyond some kind of addiction type thing.  |
Soup, my kids tell me they can hear my voice in their heads, especially when they are under stress. They can hear my reassurance that they are okay and loved, or that everything will be fine soon. Even when they were small, it seemed to happen. My son's preschool teacher told me he fell really hard One day and she was worried he was really hurt. She said he picked himself up, looked himself over and said, "You're not bleeding; you're okay," and patted himself on the tummy and went back to playing. Which is exactly how I handled it when the kids fell. That sounds a lot more callous than it was. Lol. I would cuddle them, rub their their tummy and then reassure them they were ok with the 'you're not bleeding' comment and then try to get them playing again ASAP.
Anyway, both kids say they internalized reassuring, loving messages and can hear them in their heads at need.