Oh I completely understand this! My dad very verbally abusive to me and never even realizes how he makes me feel. He is constantly talking down to me and criticizing me even when he has no room to talk. Hes a total hypocrite and I hate it! He constantly yells at me about my "tone of voice" but he can raise his voice to my mom and then to me whenever I try to stand up for myself?! None of it makes sense. I may be a hypocrite in saying this, but don't let him get you down!!! I try not to, but I know its really hard sometimes. I've just learned that whenever he starts in on me, just take it and don't feed it! Don't argue back, or try not to as much as you can! I know that is really hard, but after a while I think he will tend to calm down because when he starts yelling or criticizing you he is probably looking for a rise out of you! That's what I have noticed. When things start to blow up, if I don't "fuel the fire" its over a lot faster and I am able to just walk away from the situation! Once you walk away though, I understand the feelings are still there and I usually try to blast music, draw, call a friend, or do anything to take my mind off it. Coming on here and just viewing a chat room or talking to anyone is a good tool too! You don't have to talk about what is happening (or you can if you want to) but it just gets your mind off things. Its really hard to change people like that. My T just started working with me on coping with the verbal abuse from my father so if you need someone to talk to please feel free to PM me or friend me and keep in touch! Things get better so really try not to let him get you down. I'm sure you have a lot of talents and you are a strong person, so don't let him make you think otherwise!