I have found that there is a big difference between loving your T and being in love with your T. I truly loved my T and lost him suddenly after 20 yrs. It hurt bad, and sometimes still does ( 3 yrs. later ). I have a new T who is wonderful also and has helped me through this and felt that, yes, their is a big difference and that two people who work together for so long do develop a love between them. My old T used to tell me he loved me, but it was the same kind of love I had for him, not romantic or sexual. Just love.