Your father has a problem, likely rooted in his own childhood. He has a low self-esteem, control issues, communication problems and relational issues at the very least. Your mother also has a problem. She is co-dependent and afraid. She does not know how to keep the family safe. Her issues are likely rooted in childhood, too. It's not surprising that they are together, creating this toxic environment. It's time to seek help for yourself-find a therapist or a counselor and a free support group. Discuss privately but openly with your doc what is happening. You can survive this ugly time. Use your resources and make sure you don't stay silent. There is help available. Use this site for more posts if it helps. There are very caring people here who want to listen. We value what you say.