Penny, thanks for sharing those points. I'm going to keep it in mind that it's not what he does that makes me angry, as much as what I was already feeling about that issue.

What I'm really struggling with, anger wise, right now, is our money situation. I'm working fulltime, which was great for us because the extra income was going to help us really get ahead before the baby comes. But my hubby quit his job without talking to me about it on Monday. His reasoning was that he can keep his insurance if he gets transferred now, but he has to be available and not on a current assignment to be eligible for a transfer. He says if he would have waited, it would have been too close to the baby's arrival. But basically, it pisses me off. What a dumb, selfish move on his part. What if I'm too sick to work? What if he doesn't find a job in time and we keep going in debt? What if the next job he gets he hates too? He admits that it was stupid of him to do without talking to me about it and he's remorseful, but I really don't care. I'm so angry. I'm just carrying around this resentment, I even packed up all of my clothes and was going to take off but he talked me into staying. I feel like he can't take care of my baby and I. How am I supposed to trust him after that kind of a thing? He's been selfish in smaller ways before, but this was big for me. I know that if I stay in this marriage, which I plan to do, for life, I'm going to have to forgive him and learn to depend on him again. And I'm really struggling with that right now.