Yes I agree. Her letter is strange. That was pretty moving what she said about feeling love in the letter. But I feel there is a strange tension in the letter between the desire to be forgiven and thought well of, but not necessarily an ability to discuss what went wrong. That might account for some of the inconsistencies in the tone. Yes, I agree, this email might be anticipating a response-- specifically to the facts of who suggested or didn't suggest transferring to a new T. That isn't really the biggest issue, though, is it. It always comes down to trust.

I think it's really empowering that you wrote to her, eastcoaster. It's really impressive that you are able to be open to what she has to say but still hold on to the goal of your own personal growth and make choices from that perspective. I liked your email more than hers btw, I think you showed a lot of class.