Wow, thank you so much! (she says with a tear rolling down her cheek). This email confirmed some of what I didn't trust myself to listen to all along. I tend to look for strong women as therapists, ones who can have healthy relationships, know what to do/say in tough spots (and everyday moments) in relationships and learn from them the many basic things that my parents didn't know/were unable to teach me about relationships and human interactions. But, at times I felt like she didn't fit this bill as someone whom I could really learn from in these ways and maybe even wounded I had a better sense of human interactions sometimes...

I did write back last night - kept it short, sweet, and truthful - didn't argue about anything as _I know_ how things went, which is enough (and it didn't hurt that yesterday I had my normally scheduled session w/ current T and she completely believed me).

Dear Ex T,

Thank you for your email and I appreciate your listening to me. I'm very sorry to know about your mom.

I hope that it was clear in my email to you that I knew--and know--that everything you did was with and out of love. I never doubted your love for me. But as the song goes, "sometimes love is not enough"...

I wish you all the best, ex T.

Love,
Eastcoaster

So, not a lot of room to respond and I did know that she loved me, did everything w/ love, but a caution to her--loving a client doesn't suffice or make her a good therapist.