Another baby step to add: My parents used to fight a lot. Mom got mad at Dad for not appreciating all of the new clothes she bought him. After Dad had gone to bed, Mom got completely wasted, built a fire in the fireplace, and burned his new clothes in front of me. I kept crying "no" but she did it, I think, with a grin. On another occasion, Dad got mad at me and stopped talking to me for 9 months straight. It was pretty weird passing him in the hall. Ok, gotta stop again. Will add more later as I am able to tolerate it.