Thread: "parts" therapy
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Old Feb 06, 2012, 01:45 AM
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According to my T and IFS, the scared, vulnerable part is just a PART, not all of you. Not your Self. You're not always scared and vulnerable! B is probably a stronger part who CAN help A, the scared, vulnerable part. I don't understand why he then switched it to A helping B. You're right. You just have to ask your T to clarify what he meant, especially who he sees as part B.
I know the scared part is not all that I am and T knows this too. I didn't mean that my Self was never not scared. Just like my self is never always happy or always anything. I just meant that being scared is very much part of who my Self is. Not sure if that makes it clearer or not. Probably like mud. He switched to A helping B because B helping A was a bust. There was no B there so it was all pretend if I tried to have B help A. I couldn't proceed with that inauthenticity. The whole thing would be a farce if I was imagining new ego states just to try to please T. So I think he tried to find B by reversing things and having A help. That was a little easier because I could find A. But still not right. But it all happened very quickly at the very end of my session. I think it would have gone better if not so rushed. I do have this Part C, who was definitely there, and is quite strong. But not nice to Part A. It would be hard to have C help because C is not helpful in the nice, comforting way that T seemed to be envisioning. I think we just have to work with the parts that show up and work within their limitations.
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