It's obvious you care for her if you are here now. I think it would be nice if the two of you would go to therapy together. If you both understood each other more -inside- maybe things could get better. If she knew how you were feeling, it could provoke some good change in her. For better or for worse...sometimes I agree with that...if this is the worst, know it will only get better if the both of you want it...it's worth a try before giving up.