Wow, this is so sad!

The sudden stopping of sexual intimacy is strange, but it wouldn't be something you couldn't recover from - if he had a desire to change, and love and commitment were present in the relationship.

What's sriking about this situation is the hostility:

"He said I take a lot of work to make love to."

That made me gasp aloud just to read it.

Has he always shown this kind of cruelty? Or is this new? This is brutal treatment, and from what you describe, you've done absolutely nothing to inspire this strange behavior. He's covering all bases here - first the passive-aggressive withdrawal from intimacy, and then the hostile lashing-out at you when you try to communicate. This leaves you in a bind - you're wrong no matter what you do.

No, you're not wrong in your feelings. Feelings are never wrong. What's wrong is that your boyfriend has suddenly turned into a different person, and he's not giving you any indication that he thinks anything is wrong, or that he should attend to your concerns regarding the change. Any time you try to talk to him about it, he attacks you.

Why on earth would he think that anyone would put up with his $hit? That's what amazes me. If he has no interest in listening to your concerns or even admitting that there's an issue between you, then this is a very bad situation with (in my opinion) little to no prospect of getting better. You're working like a dog for him every day, tearing your heart out, and getting simply nothing in return. I'd say there's no reason to say with this asshat. Since you're not married, just get out. Get out from under this, you don't deserve this hell.

(((((((sangleyes19))))))) And hugs!