anne, Sounds a though you are married to an extreme workaholic. I was married to one also, but not so extreme. We did have sex on a regular basis. My husband seemed to use work as an excuse to avoid time with family. For instance he would work on weekends. He would go off on his own, or with buddies to hunt and fish quite often. Vacations and such were few and far between and basically I was the only one rearing our two children.

If you have the resources and you can see a marital T. that would be great; getting him to comply with this might be a huge barrier. Can you set him down and have a talk with him and tell him YOU NEED INTIMACY..he's pushing his need down, although it is really something he needs also if he were to admit to the core of his feelings.

Don't allow him to use working as an avoidance, he needs breaks and if he doesn't look at this with more in-depth, later he is going to regret that he focused only on making a living. His duty does apply also in the realm of husband and father...that means committing time to you and your son. My husband only listened when he heard me say things rather harshly; speaking to him in a subdued manner...he never listened. That worked for me,but since you two do argue a lot; pick a method you feel like would work with him. Wishing you luck; also don't beat yourself up about the early time in your marriage..past, move forward. Hugs, bj