I really think you're mothering him way too much...you seriously need to back off of some of the things that you do for him. Being nice and sweet and complimenting him from time to time is great. Making meals and cleaning the house is okay as long as he shares in some of the household work...but laying out his clothes, cleaning his reptile cages, fixing his sinus wash and laying out his pens for the next day? Seriously, this is the type of thing a mother does for a very young child...I wouldn't even do this for a teenager, much less a grown man. He probably feels as if you have no life other than to please him...and, I can't imagine that this is sexy to him. From what I know, sweet confidence does the trick. No need to turn into a ball buster or anything....but you gotta have your own life or he'll feel pressure and annoyance. If you have time on your hands, try using your skills for someone who really needs your help (volunteer at a hospital, get certified at a rape crisis center, walk dogs at the local shelter, etc.). Maybe if he missed having you around a little bit, he'd be more attentive.